It doesn't sound like Asperger's at all to me to be honest. I'm also aware that when you get one person's viewpoint of a "problem" relationship, that it's rarely unbiased. To me it just sounds like a bad pairing. While often I know that we can see psychological problems before the professionals, or systems (depending on area, country etc) can be problematic for diagnosis, it concerns me that you have considered him "diagnosed" with all those psychological issues off your own merit, and given the first post hinted not a jot at ASD, it makes me wonder about the others. It sounds to me like you're very hurt, and probably fairly so, so just move on. It doesn't really matter what his problem is, your problem is clearly him and vice versa. It is not a healthy relationship and probably will never be one. xx