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my last remaining alter does like her any more,

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I assume this is a typo and you mean that your other part of you doesn't like her. But, do you?

No one likes everyone. Make a conscious decision, perhaps, to just let her be one of those ppl you don't care for.

If she is truly triggering, then I would say allow yourself to cope as best you know how. Do try to figure out what about her irks / triggers you, so that you can learn that one person might not matter that much.

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acting up any time I feel a beating down (in words) coming on from her.

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Maybe go through some of the CBT distortions to counteract her power to do this to you? A good dose of self talk of how worthy a human being you are will help you not pay attention to her berating you, imo. Also, try not to anticipate what she might say, nor why or how. You (or other part) might be projecting onto her something from someone in your past (thus the trigger.)

Be easy on yourself, you're still healing