I can think of the 19 year old me and the 27 year old me now and I have a different view on sex.

The 19 year old self was just getting to understand what sex is, and figuring out what it meant. I may have had a overly grandiose idea that sex was a pinanncle of romance. Yes in a way it is. The me now has a different view on it. Being married and having sex with the same person a lot, it isn't always about love, sometimes it is just about satsifying an urge. Maybe that is our brains yelling at us "MAKE BABIES". Sometimes it is full of passion, love and caring. Sometimes it gets wierd and you do things, and afterwards you say I'm not doing that again. Sometimes it just lacks passion and feels mechanical.

I've have had one sexual partner, so all of these experiences happened with the same women. Early 20's women may be a little jaded when it comes to sex, because they have so many guys trying to get in thier pants that thier first instinct is to say no.

I think a women in her 30's would have a much different view on it. Maybe a little more responsible and wants to find a deeper relationship that doesn't jump right to sex.

The only way you are going to find that meaningful relationship is to get out there and find someone that likes you and you like at the same time. You have to open yourself up and speak from your heart, fall in love. Get infatuated with someone that you wonder how you lived without them. It's not easy, but that is what we have to do.

Having prospects doesn't hurt either. A car, house and some nice clothes. Not vein, but like you carry yourself with pride. Not a requirement, but it tends to help. Its not really about money, but a statement that you are capable of putting forth effort and can reach your own personal goals.

Think of it this way. You only have to really find one person that digs you, and somewhere out there is a person that can look at you and fall in love. Yeah it sucks going on date after date, and coming out short handed, but you are just trying to find someone who is into.

If it is any glimmer of hope, my experience with my wife has told me that closer women get to thirty the more they want children. Since I dont have a ticking clock on when I can make sperm in can't really relate, but it is could be a motivation for some women who will willing to form.a relationship. Just food for thought.