OK, AK482, I think I have an idea if you do not mind being in a non-exclusive relationship. I have spent some time on a national polyamorous email list in the past two weeks, and the following has become apparent:

- people there write voluminous emails - nothing compared to the longest posts on here. Pages and pages and pages of text that consists of a mixture of the hardest GRE words and their own coinages

- people tend to be older, having tried other arrangements first

- people are very touchy-feely and hippie-like

- people are into everything "conscious" - eco-wise, sex-wise, everything-wise. Very conscious - conscious is the word that stands out the most.

- people are used to less-than-usual arrangements and configurations.

- people advertise on OKC as looking for love rather than casual sex (out of consciousness, as far as I have been able to guess)

- some believe in karma

So, I am thinking that if you sign up:
Ohio Valley Polyamory Network

and write an email (however long) with an introduction that openly and honestly states the case, reiterating that you are looking for a conscious connection rather than casual sex, and that you have lots of gifts to share (you do), and leave it at that - I am pretty positive that out of all those people, there would be a kind soul or two, or more, who would want to improve their karma and/or have fun and/or develop a deep connection, and then it would be up to YOU to decide if you like the kind soul(s).

My main points in offering that are:

1) getting away from the societal rigidities - the people on the network will be much more open minded and accepting of all aspects of human sexuality, including, I would say, that of delayed sexual debut.

2) you are currently either turning off women by disclosing lack of experience or are withholding something by not disclosing - either way is bad. If you post an open and honest introduction, you will not be lying so you will not be burdened by the weight of your under-disclosures.

Finally, people who identify as polyamorous do not necessarily have many partners - they identify in a philosophical sense, and many happen to have one partner or even none, and still identify, as a matter of principle, so it is not the case that anybody who responds to you would have an entourage of lovers. Not at all.

So think about it - since your situation is non-standard, a non-standard approach may be the order of the day.

Finally, in terms of learning the know-how, I bet some of those people would be a supreme source of know-how ranging from basic sex acts to Tantra, many-somes, meditative masturbation, etc.etc (not that you want all of those fringe benefits - just stating that they might be available).