I read how BPD operate or handle our relationships.... Myself and my current partner have been together for 3+ years....of course not consistently.... These last 6 months I have truly been trying to figure out my triggers...change....stay focused etc. She has promised to be here not leave my side help me through this etc. i told her I don't know if I'll ever get to the "core" of the issues.... Im 28 and at 27 it seemed like my mental state went out the window..I was tired of having to be so strong....I didn't have the strength anymore... I hurt her....ALOT....she hurt me...ALOT....we have accepted that.....but how do you know if they are staying because they really love you or because I messed her up so mentally too....I have no idea what to think....