well today we had our first assessment to see if we are viable to care for grandson if he doesnt stay with his mun, oh dear didnt go well because we both got mental health issues we were already low on the list then she asked if we thought we could offer little man the best of us for the next say 16 years, dealing with all our other issues as well, son and the ex hubbys health my health, it was a hard decision but we declined , so now if son isn't viable on his own he wont have a chance with out us feel real guilty, my second eldest daughter is still to be assessed