One of the toughest things, going through the divorce process, is sometimes reading things online or hearing things in person, about the child aspect. Just realize, that every circumstance is different.

I had such a rocky marriage, that I did try all I could possibly try, to do what I could to uphold my end of the bargain/vow. And I grappled with having to circumnavigate such thinking/judging words.

What I have learned, is that having a relationship with my kids where I am honest with being a human being, helps greatly. Not in the sense of they are friends to me, just being honest when the questions flow from their mouths.

Another thing happened, their dad seemed to come to start having quality time versus quantity time with them. And somehow, three years later, he and I get along better. Not in a sense of getting back, just where the kids are concerned, communication, trying to be on the same page, etc has gotten much better.

It isn't always easy. Not every relationship was meant to last.