Gypsy, let me give you a story of it from my side of the coin..
I was the person who cheated, and had an affiar with a man while I was married. I had a child, and I was desperatly "unhappy" in my marriaage.. It takes two to make a marriage work, if is will not leave because of the kids, something eles is also keeping him.. I am sorry, that is not the only reason he is staying.

Being unhappy, and looking at porn online, and offline is one thing, to do, but when you go and act out on it, and lie to a female, how do you know that you are not the only one he is seeing.. Yes he may be a wonderful father, but that is not the only thing that makes a marriage work, or not work.. Take it form me. I know..
I have made many mistakes in my past, and I do regeart them..
Haveing the affair is one of them.. I wish I had talked more with my ex-husband and told him why I did what I had done, and tried to leave on better terms..

You say he takes internet porn to far, and does not relize it till someone gets hurt? What do you mean by this??? I am wondering???

Asking him to get help is a good step in the right direction.. I am proud of you , and I will never degrade you for your life decsions, for I hvae made worse, and I can not judge you, because you have to do what is your heart.. And yes falling in love with a married man is a very easy thing to do...

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take time to heal thyself before trying to help others, or you will never get better