Hi PC Members,
Just putting this out there in the PC community in the hope that I get a bit of feedback that could help.
My 14 year old son is a compulsive masturbator. Although I am not 100% sure that this takes place daily, I am 99% sure it does. Every evening when he showers he is in the bathroom for 1-1.5 hours!!!!! Water is running so it sounds like hes showering but I know he is not in the water cause of the sound and also because I saw his feet on the rug from under the door. We have tried everything to get him to cut down the long "showers" but absolutely nothing works - talking nicely, getting angry, banging on door, etc etc. This pre-occupation also affects his sleep time - he hops into bed and then pretends to sleep but secretely is on the laptop, ipad or watching TV. Then he goes to the bathroom every hour until around 1.30-2pm - and that is on a school night! So the other night because he had not done homework I told him I was removing all the electronic equipment since that was distracting him. He lost it and stormed out of the house in his pjs at 10.45pm at night. After searching I finally found him a few door down in the cold huddled next to a brick wall. I managed to coax him in. He wont communicate even though I have tried and tried to connect with him. His school grades are sliding backwards as well. He is currently seeing a therapist because his father is a narcissist and he has had a tough childhood. Some of my other posts talk about that. What concerns me now is his current behaviour but mostly his compulsive masturbating. I understand that it's normal for adolescent boys to masturbate but when it affects your well being and those around you, then I think it would be classed as problem behaviour. Does anyone have any experience with this? Can anyone offer any advice? Anything would be appreciated. Thanks