If you can forgive yourself, it makes it easier to forgive others. If you've hurt others, then ask yourself, was it intentional? If it wasnt, forgive yourself. We cant always know the best way to respond to lifes situations. Sometimes we need to make mistakes to learn.

If it was intentional, make a choice about that being the way you want to live your life. If it isnt, and you are breathing, you have time to change your thoughts. There is time to change the way you interact with others. You'll need to learn a whole new set of coping skills, but knowing you are making changes and believing you will become a better person, even if the world is against you, is something you can lean on to help get through hard times.