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Originally Posted by healingme4me
No, that cancelling over sushi, to me, sounds out of line. He couldn't say, hey, daughter, lets plan a different time.
Sounds like your aren't feeling like a priority in his life, and that is a huge need. He's not following through on plans with you. How can one feel valued in a relationship, with all this cancelling of dates?
I have kids, myself. Visitation schedules with their dad, are rather consistent. Extracurricular activities are pretty consistent.
Your story, rubs me wrong, too.  |
I just got the email saying that 'if I have to make a choice btw the kids and you it will always be the kids'...Now, once again...I have 2 adult children...was divorced when they were teens and dated..and I completely understand about putting children/needs ahead of someone you're dating....w/in reason of course....this to me was totally whacked...we had previously discussed the same thing and he had agreed unless it was something 'urgent' or some event they needed him there for when we had a planned day together that would remain...and she's not a 5yr old...all of his children seem to do this but 1...she doesn't seem to care one way or another about anything...but the others will always ask(rather demand)he do things..not so much so they can spend time w/him...more of the 'buy me' type things...and he does....it's sad...sad that he feels that's the way that he's showing his love...he'll take anything he can get...I feel bad for him in that way since they seem to be using him rather then seeing he wants to be w/them...but on the same token it's completely unfair to the relationship and then when they dis him he calls me to see if I'll see him(which I normally do...but...feel like 2nd choice). So, I just told him again...I don't think we'll work if we can't compromise more...this being one...I'm ok w/getting pushed aside here/there...but something like this...no...totally not right in my eyes.