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Old Jun 12, 2013, 04:25 PM
blueshoten blueshoten is offline
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I have been maaried around 2 years.It was an arrange marriage although both of us talked more than 2 months before get married as per family permission and then decided to get married. Everything was fine.Although my wife told me she had relationship but it didn't bother me a lot at the beginning. I just curious to know about her story.As soon as I got married , her ex bf send me a text which indicates they got a physical relationship.I could not even imagine it before.As in our culture , girls are pretty secured.Getting the hints, I had some cross question to my wife ..is that true or not?She admitted everything trusting me.She told me that she was forced to do that although she didn't want to do this before married and it happened twice with him and when she tried to come out , her bf tried to blackmail her emotionally.It was continuied 3 more yrs and they knew each other more than 7 yrs.Now this matter is killing my inside. I was with her only 2 months after got married and then I came to Usa.Now. ..whenever I talk to her I always go that point and start fighting vwith her on that issue.Although I know ..She felt guilty what she did and she loves me a lot.After that..I didn't even meet with her.I already informed this matter to her and my family. And doing this, I lost her faith and she doesn't trust me any more to say about ex relationship. Before married , I talked several girls but those were only for few months over the phone or internet.So, there is no question to involve vwith physical relationship with someone. This issue is now killing me every time. It seems that I m more concern about her past then present.I just get over from it and want to love her as I did when we talked first time.Please give me a solution. I don't want to ruin both lives.She will suffer more than me if I devorce her.I just want to forget her past.oh..her bf upload some photos in fb few days ago eith her and he told me that my brain will hang if I see those raw materialistic info.I don't know what those things are!!!I really don't know what should I do now??
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