Have you heard of 'mirroring'? Its when we get wrapped in our own thoughts and we believe others are thinking certain things about us and we believe it so much that we mentally and physically prepare for whatever response we believe is coming our way. Some people expect to be attacked so they carry weapons. What is happening is that the belief that they will be attacked is controlling thier concious actions. They are so involved with preparing for what they believe is coming, sooner or later, that they never have time to drink a glass of tea in the sun or dance to a song, or play with thier cats. Its like theyre obsessed and they create thier own version of reality based on a belief that hasnt been proven. Sometimes these same people will instigate the 'inevitable' because they exhaust themselves mentally and physically for an attack that hasnt come yet. Maybe 'mirroring' is the wrong term so dont quote me but I used it describe the process of one person imagining what another person is thinking and the second person 'mirroring' back what they are thinking with cues, vibes, and body language. Nothing really needs to be said between them.

You cant know what others are thinking but, if they are thinking what youre thinking, it doenst make it easier to make friends. You are thinking about how they dont like you, wont like you, cant like you, shouldnt like you and they are responding with actions that say we dont like you if you dont like us.

One of you has to stop thinking what youre thinking and start thinking something else. You cant control what they think, you can only control what you think.