Adam: Thanks for the sound advice. When I have my fantasies I do consider the foreplay and intimacy before penetration. I believe in the concept of the entire experience not just intercourse (or as I call it a "wham, bam, thank you ma'am )

Hamster: Very eloquently written. That's what I would feel about my first time, and I hope she would feel just as flattered that I would consider her worthy of my first time. An interesting question: when setting up the profile, should I use language like "it's been awhile" (it really has) or "not very experienced" (again true)? When I'm asked for my turn-ons, I list what I think that I would most like, hopefully it doesn't give me away as a virgin.