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Input people. I need all the input I can get. I don't need hugs or a supportive that sucks. I want input. Thanks for your time. -Michael-

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No sympathy, then.

I think you are acting like a gigantic Butt.

You have GOT to take a look at YOURSELF man!

I can go on and on about the psych reasons for acting this way, but I just don't have the patience for it at the moment, and I doubt it will help anyway because you probably already have that knowledge.

In my experience, relationships that are rife with jealousy do not stand a chance. Oh sure, it may continue for years, but eventually, there will be a complete breakdown and someone is going to get hurt - badly.

You have got to figure out if you are sabotaging this relationship (by continually being suspicious and jealous, forcing her to become distant and resentful) because you do not have the guts to let go on your own (if that is truly what you want), or your are just behaving the same way you always do in every relationship by pushing her away
(unconcious behaviours will follow you into every relationship)

OR

She is actually just not that into you anymore for whatever reason, including not being able to handle your illness(es) any longer (most people who do not suffer from mental/physical illness(es) do not have great amounts of patience with our kind, especially in our younger years). She may be acting out in the same way you are - by sabotaging the relationship by behaving the way she is (ie. dress, use of other friends to provide alibies, etc.) so she does not have to come clean and say she also no longer wants to be a part of this relationship, or is simply fed up by your antics.

Either way, One (or both) of you is not being entirely honest here.

And since we do not have the benefit of her side of the story, it seem like YOU are the one looking for all the clues and are trying to establish all the necessary proof you need to get out.

I don't know if the above makes sense, but let me give you an example of how I used to operate:

When I realized that I no longer wanted to be in a relationship (for whatever reason, including feeding my illness by repeating certain behavioural patterns), I would start to behave in ways that would definitely sabotage a relationship - such as some of the things your girlfriend is doing now - actually that was my main M.O.

The purpose? To FORCE the OTHER person to make the decision that I could not bring myself to do because I did not want to confront that reality. I made it so difficult for my partner(s) that they eventually HAD to make that decision. In my head, I thought I was being kind, by making myself appear to be the bad one (which I was, but only because of the way I went about ending the relationship). I did not want to tell my partner that I just did not want to continue with him. I did not want him to feel that I was rejecting HIM, so I gave him reasons to reject ME.

Of course, I was aware that I would be the one who always looked like the bad guy, and to be honest, I always was when I pulled this stunt, and all because I could not/ would not/did not want be honest with myself or my partner.

I have only read this particular post on this subject, and am assuming that from what your subject line and what the message says, or rather, how it is worded, that alot of your problems are coming directly from you.

Regardless of what the real reasons are, if you do not change your attitude about jealousy and suspicion, you will always find yourself in this position - by finding mates that are not trustworthy to begin with, or by destroying, by your own hand, those that are good and genuine.

Altered State

If I have not made sense, I apologize. I am a little worked up about this at the moment. If you need further clarification (or just want to give me a good once over), just reply. No offence will be taken on my part by your response.