My ex-husband and I separated for a year, before we decided to go forward and get a divorce. That took another year or so for that to finally be approved.

Our first step in determining that separation was necessary was during marital counseling. I was hopeful that our marriage could be saved, but his heart wasn't in it anymore. As you probably already know, it takes both people to make a healthy relationship. Personally, I'm against simply "giving up" because that's just SO EASY and overdone these days, in my humble opinion. I think that we need to work harder to fix our marital relationship in most cases.

That means that he needs to work on the relationship, showing respect and care for you & vice-versa. It's certainly worth a shot! If it doesn't work, then you can say that you've tried everything and feel confident in your decision to end your marriage. But, please, try to make your thoughts and feelings known & give your hub the benefit of the doubt.

Very gentle hugs to you...