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Originally Posted by ak482
Well, I also had an OKC profile, which is where the virginity issue was brought up. I thought being honest and forthright was something important and that a woman might be willing to be accepting, but I found very negative responses to that.
Right now I'm on a site called SocialSex (it's pretty NSFW even if it's not all sex all the time) and I've been very silent about my lack of experience. They do have choices for turn-ons and turn-offs, which I do have and list.
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this is because you had the "
I timidly hope you will excuse me honesty and forthrightness", instead of "
you should feel SOOOOO flattered honesty and forthrightness".
In other words, attitude over and above facts. Half empty half full is also about this. Pretty much most things are about this, actually.
Speaking of casual sex - OKC has an option of wanting "casual sex" in goals - they have many options, just as LI allows you to list what purpose is valid for somebody to contact you - getting back in touch, business opportunities or whatever they call them, same idea. So I have seen men who want A,B,C, and casual sex, too.
There is probably a button/option to narrow down your searches so that you pull JUST those who list casual sex among their interests. I have been contacted by people wanting "new friends, short-term dating, activity partners, casual sex" and I have not yet seen a person with just "casual sex", but I have not used the site enough yet. The point is, they must have functionality that would only show you casual sex seekers. So I wouldn't abandon it altogether - the more the merrier.
I see that SocialSex.com has copyright going back to 2004, claims to be the biggest of this kind on the web, is professionally done, is very tastefully done which must have been difficult given the subject matter (the splash page that you see without registration), so, it seems that they know what they are doing and you are on the right track. I see that they guarantee hookups - does it mean "money back if no sex within 3 months of subscribing"? How much is the monthly cost?
At any rate, they are either not being serious, or guaranteeing something or your money back, which is basically meaningless and no guarantee for you - but you do not seem to be the kind of guy who would take such statements at face value anyway.
And here is something off YT (have not watched it):
Jan 17, 2013 –
SocialSex.com - Social Sex | Sexbook | ****book for Adults! SocialSex: Adult dating secrets revealed. New video shows the best method to score with local hookups. Are you looking for ...