Hello,
I've been dating a guy for about two months now. At first everything seemed normal, but soon things started to change. I could tell from the beginning that my boyfriend was a little insecure because he would tell me that he didn't deserve me, but I could never figure out exactly why he felt that way. Today after talking for awhile, he revealed to me hisvague memory from childhood when he molested his younger brother, he doesn't remember the details but he thinks he was around 5 or 6 and his brother 2. He said like they were in the bathtub when he became aroused and then abused his brother. He said it happened a few times, but never when he was older than that. My boyfriend has understandably carried the guilt with him all his life (he's 21 now), and desperately wishes to t
apologize to his brother but doesn't know how. The brother is gay and my boyfriend feels like he "turned" him that way. His guilt has affected our relationship through his low self esteem... he says he's broken and that he's not worth me or my time. I love him very much already and have no plans to leave him. He is the sweetest boy I've ever met and he has never done anything to hurt me. I told him that having been so young, he simply didn't understand the implications of his actions and that this doesn't define him. Still, I'm left worrying that this will change our relationship. I told him repeatedly that what happened wasn't his fault but he refuses to believe me. Can anyone offer advice for this? Please, don't tell me just to leave him. I honestly do not blame him... should I?