Hi everyone,

I'm on here to get so advice, I hope someone can help me. My husband and I go to a therapist but it has not helped us get along 100 percent yet. We see finances differently, my husband loves his commission based job as a finical advisor/ training manager. He has been at this job for almost 2 years now and this year has only made about 2,100.00. Leaving me to pick up all the slake. I supported him for the time he is starting out but recently I told him I was done paying for anything I would not do it any more. He was happy for the challenge and thought throw it and he got a credit card to help hime pay for bills. And I'm pissed he is using credit when he is already so in debt. It's seems like another one of his cop outs. And let me mention I lost my job in march and his mom pays for our mortgage for this time well he is trying to make money. His mother has helped him out too much.
So if I want to do anything fun we can't put it up online cuz he is scared his mom will see it and think we are spending money on stuff. It is so aggravating not being able to go out with friends and do fun stuff.
So after we had the discussion about me not paying for anything we had a therapy appointment that weekend and the therapist told me that you see all the ladies in this town they all supported there husbands in the beginning and now they can shop and have a nice life and that I need to continue helping him with the bills so he does not resent me for not doing my part. Flipping A i don't care about the shopping crap I want to live a life where I purchase something for our lives and don't regret the purchase in the next few days after, I want to live a full life and to do that in this day and age you need money not just love.
I never thought I would think of divorce but I do know I'm trying to position myself in a better finical light for myself so if i need to get out of this I can. He loves me very much but he doesn't know how to make me happy anymore and he doesn't he just makes me made hopeless and sick to my stomach. I don't find him attractive and our sex life is terrible, he probably doesn't want me because I nag.
Also when he sees his mother or sister he talks all about how great his job is going and I get really really mad when he says these things because I think they don't know how much we are struggling finically and he makes it seem like he has made some money and he has not made ****. I want to write his mother a letter about what is going on but I don't want him to hate me, sometimes when I'm around his mom or sister I feel like i will blurt it out but I don't because I love him. And I do believe he will be successful someday because he loves what he does. But I can't continue to live like this for much longer I grew up poor and I hate this feeling I get that it will always be like that for me.
Not sure if anyone has been in a situation like this but if so what did you do.