Financial problems can be really damaging to a marriage. I'm sorry you lost your job and are struggling, but hopefully you can find a new one soon. As far as for him, he need to get some better work. $2,100 is nothing really. You can make more working part time at mcdonalslds. There are better sales jobs out there that can pay more if that is what he wants to do.

I would be very cautious about him using credit cards, expecially to live on. If you get divorced you may be responsible for those debts. It sounds like he is really financially inept. You have to do what you have to so you don't end up on the street. If that means you have to leave, then it Kay be better to be alone and self sufficent than homeless and married. Just my opinion.

It isn't selfish to take care of oneself. We have to remember to do that. We can easily put our selves in the position of supporting a spouse to our own detriment. I would get a handle in your finances fast because they only get worse with time.

I am in a similar situation. My wife owes a large amount of money for student loans. She hasn't had a job in a couple of years. I recently borred $3500 so she could get out of default on her student loans. She is about to blow that money because she has missed her last two payments.

I took the stance of it being her responsibility and I am not going to help her anymore with it. She will have to find a way to sort out what she owes and work to get it taken care of. I can't afford to pay it for her and I don't think I should.

I keep separate finances. I pay all the bills and buy everything we need. If I shared my bank with her she would spend money impulsively and I would be able to pay bills. I had to take control of it because she is irresponsible. That is just how I handle it for myself.

I wish you luck in things. Maybe talking to his family will give them a wake up call and get him to actually make a living and not get deeper in debt.