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Old Jun 14, 2013, 12:15 PM
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Originally Posted by _Mouse View Post
Hankster, I don't think I was saying granite 'shouldn't see the world as granite does. I'm confused.
If a child says I keep burning my hand when I touch the oven door. Do we sit by & simy say 'yes you do' or do we say 'yes you do, but if you held the handle it wouldn't burn'?
No no I said her T needs to see the world as granite does. I think her advice is too generic. That's why, as you say, better to change the internal messages than the outward actions? My prev t told me to find a partner - I was like, but I always mess up my relationships - what will be different this time? I needed to change inside.