Hi adam_k
Thank you for getting back to me. I'm sorry that you are also going through trouble in your relationship. It is one of the hardest times in history finically, I have only had temp jobs most of my career other then working retail. I hope your wife finds a way out of debt.
But do you feel bad not helping her finically. It was the hardest thing for me to say to my husband to take over all the bills. But then the therapist got in the way and we split the bills.
He will never leave this job I have begged him to get a second job and he gets mean and says I will never see him because he will be working all the time. So I back off because I want him to want to have money but he doesn't care to have it. It seems to me he is fine living off of hotdogs and cereal. He tells me if I want things to be different why don't I get a job I can change it for myself. I will get a job but I don't want him relaxing well I make the money like he did when I had the job. And if I go to his family I'm scared they will think I'm looking for hand outs, and his mom would never let him be on the streets she will take care of him forever. She is part of the problem of him waking. He can always fall back on her.