SO not a silly question...those can be important questions to ask, because they are relatively simple paths to little bits of self-discovery that can add up to a lot of healing.

Funny how the answers to the questions we have so often come back to, "ask your therapist about it." Therapist yawns in session; is she bored by me? Ask her. He was short with me on the phone; is he angry with me? Ask him. She said something that hurt me and made me feel she doesn't understand me at all; she's a duplicitous phony! Hmm, might wanna run that by her and see what happens.

I'm a total mess, but I am learning that one main purpose of therapy, for me, is to use every bad feeling and assumption that comes up in therapy as fodder for learning about myself. Unless I can bring myself to confront these things with the one person who is paid and trained to hold my best interests and healing as paramount, then therapy is really just a waste of time and money.

The corollary to that, of course, is what your therapist does with that sort of "confrontation." If her response is to be anything other than compassionate and open, encouraging you to join her in being curious about yourself in relation to her and your perceptions of her, then hit the door and find another therapist. Life is also too short to waste time and money with someone who can't be trusted with the basic requirements of the therapeutic alliance.