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Originally Posted by Amalthea1978
To be honest, we're usually both frustrated about the same thing. Normally we talk about it and vent, but I'm wondering if that is actually helpful or harmful. Would it be more helpful to change the subject? For me to express less frustration myself? I'm not looking to be anyone's therapist, I just would like to know that my reactions are helpful rather than making the problem worse.
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Personally, venting or listening to others vent does not increase my anxiety. Actually, being able to vent or talk over my frustrations with someone who is experiencing the same thing helps to normalize the experience and relieve some anxiety. Changing the subject often feels dismissive and can make me more anxious (like "they don't want to hear what I'm saying" or "I'm wrong").
Some of the things I appreciate from my own friends who know of my anxiety are just the little things they do - reminding me to breathe; giving me space when I need it; acknowledging that something is making me anxious, even if they don't understand it; etc. I had one friend come up to me and just say "breathe" and it was the most helpful thing they could have done at that time. Also, having friends ask if I need some space or need to get away for a second and then providing me a route to do that is a big help.