So I emailed my T about a couple of things from my childhood and one thing from after I was an adult with my FOO. It seemed like important stuff at the time I was writing it, but had never seemed all that important before. Shoot, the one thing I had totally and completely forgotten about until an email from a friend made me think of it. So suddenly it seems important and I wrote the email so I wouldn't "forget" again, because every time this incident has come up, I just forget it again ten minutes later, until the next time it comes up and then I'm like, "Oh, yeah, I really felt like **** about that." I did start by saying it was a giant long email and he didn't have to read it, I just needed to get it down so I could address it in session.

Anyway, he pretty promptly emailed back, thanking me for sharing and telling me how important he thinks it is to address the thoughts and feelings surrounding these things. HOWEVER, I have begun second guessing myself and thinking these things are no big deal and I am just an attention monger who is trying to manipulate my T into thinking about me outside the 50 minutes I have paid for. Like I am just looking for excuses to email him. At the time, I did not think so, but ... I mean really, nothing I said was all that important or that big of a deal that it could not have waited.

So, how does anyone know what is important enough to email? Really, I didn't even think these things were important enough to talk about in session, apparently, because it didn't even occur to me to tell him about it until today.