I think your boyfrriend has sex issues that may have a connection to his own childhood experiences. Many of our psychlogical issues go back to our childhood. This has been proven in all professional studies on this issue. Even if u ask about that he may adamantly deny it because most men will not admit to it because it makes them feel less of a man if they cannot perform to the expectations of their sexual parters. I know because I'm a man. U need to talk to him about it.
I'm probably older than u might expect but i have a lot of experience.
I was married, got separated from my wife after thirty something years of marraige, our sexual intimacy was going no where, I'm sorry to say, and as a result I, like most men, I had an affair with another woman, but I can tell u, and i don't mean to boast, I satisfied both of these woman
who had earth shattering orgasims at my tender hands that they never experienced in their entire lives. I tell u they could not even express it in words. It was "OMG...." I thought they were speaking in a foreign language until I realized I must be doing something right. I must be pressing all the right buttons. It was better than tying on my computer keyboard!!!
So if u think that talking to your bo about this issue may help then go for it.... or I suggest that he get some professional help. If u say u r attactive and a sex kitten any man would desire then u need to really look at your present relationship to see if it can get better. If not then find yourself another man who can appreciate u for the woman u say u r and who can provide u with the happiness and pleasure u so deserve.
Does that make any sense??? Maybe it does.... think about it deeply.
Make the right choices for your happiness. I think u deserve that.
Live is short.... live on my princess!!!
Regards ,
"almostthere" And i dont mean sexually, ok...
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Originally Posted by dmode80
Hi there,
I'm 32 my boyfriend is 37. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, we love each very much. We've been trying to have sex for 6 months now. Everytime we have tried, he's hasn't been able to ejaculate. The only time he's able to ejaculate is when he's masturbating on his own to either to porn or to images in his mind. I've tried toys, didn't work. He went to the doctor and got Cialis, which helped him stay hard longer but never came. I've dressed up, told him to cut down his masturbating from everyday to half as much. The week before we were together he masturbated just once. Still couldn't come. I suggested we go to a sex therapist but he's adamant about not going. I can't force him to do something he doesn't want to do. He's had this issue in the past with women, not all of them just a few and says it's because there's no passion. In the beginning when this problem started he said it's because he's old (umm no I don't think so), then he was saying he was thinking too much about performing and now he's saying there's no passion. I feel like something is missing. He says he loves me, I'm beautiful but feels like there's a lack of passion which is why he can't perform. He's only been with 5 or 6 women in his life about once or twice each so he's fairly inexperienced compared to myself. I asked if my experience intimidates him and he honestly said no. We are fantastic in every other aspect of the relationship. Any thoughts?
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