Been going out a lot, not places we have to walk too far 'cause I'm up for surgery. Got in an unfortunate argument with my husband over my bringing up my sibling "Jerry" and his forever psychopathic maneuvers. Well, I had to confront Jerry a couple weeks ago about trying to talk my Alzheimer's dad into giving him Power of Attorney. I didn't relish it, but that would be a disaster. Jerry could steal everything all over again and leave them with nothing. Only I have POA, and just because my parents asked me to about 15 years ago. I don't want their things, and I have dibs on nothing, except their old clock and mailbox. Worth maybe $10. Jerry, of course, has all their expensive stuff promised to him.

So, my husband said he's sick to death of Jerry's BS, doesn't want Jerry's name brought up taking time and killing enjoyment in our relationship. I understand that; 30 years of Jerry's crap, since we were kids, in which he's done so many criminal/outrageous things, to us, and many others. But he got SO mad, which he usually doesn't, and called me by my father's first name. Then he left for work.

I texted him that it was sh**ty and hurtful to call me a man's name who battered me so often that my mom made me move out when I was 15 for my own safety.

I know he forgot that because I've rarely spoken of it in our near-30 year marriage.

I think he's trying to make it up to me though..

Damn people like Jerry make life so much harder for others... and I'm the overconscientious type, easy pickens for those like him... but my eyes have been opening....some people in the fam are still under his spell (i.e. being manipulated by his expansive bag of crazy-making tactics).

Anyway, stress city. I hate this crap.