Thanks for the advice. School is out, so counselor is not available. When we started at the school, her counselor was not that willing to help. She is pleasant in class and outgoing, so they can't see the problem. Daughter is not shy at all, but has some social fears.

I don't know mothers of girls her age, just boys through my son's sports. I have tried at her swimming, but it is more a drop off and pick up environment.

The group outing is a good idea. I will give that a try. She is hesitant to invite the two girls she knows best at the same time because they did not seem to like each other much at her birthday last month.

Daughter has asked to go away to sleep over camp for a couple of years now, and she will be going next month for a week. This does not solve the friends issue here.

I got her to text her two friends today to invite them on an outing. Both were busy at other things. We are on vacation next week and I told her when we get back I want her to make an active effort to get together with these girls.

She was very happy going to the pool with her younger brother and his friend. Came home and read all evening while the boys played together. She is both very mature for her age and socially immature. Does that make sense? Super responsible and self disciplined. I just feel she is choosing to miss out on the social part of life. When she is engaged in social life, she is so giggly and alive. She just needs a push all the time to engage in social life. Am I right to keep pushing? Any suggestion from me that she do something to increase social life seems to make her feel badly. She then gets worried that there is something wrong with her because her mother is suggesting there is something wrong. She is so hormonal having just gotten her period. I feel like I am walking on eggshells with every conversation. My husband thinks I should just leave it alone and let her spend time by herself if that is what she is choosing. I am uncertain what my responsibility here is.