Granite...
There is WAY more good in the world than evil.
Take the explosions at the Boston marathon. A FEW people decided to unleash evil on the city. THOUSANDS of people reached out and tried to help. Your life (and mine) was filled with evil when you were growing up. But we aren't children, we can chose who we are around now. Once we got out of those four walls there were thousands of good people to care for us. Your H is one. Your son another. Your T another. Your friends (hope that includes me) are others. You have filled your life with good people, that is self care.