[QUOTE=healingme4me;3116971]Is he also, in therapy? I ask, I know a man, that has a similar worldview on his own children.

Of course, you don't want to tell another person how to parent, at the same time, you'd hope, that by now, when in the dating 'fray', he'd be able to place children and a new/newer relationship into perspective.

We don't, as parents, need to martyr ourselves to our children. We can only do our best by them. And incorporating a new person into our lives, means that we are ready to know the difference.

He has gone to counseling in the past w/divorce issues but I've been suggesting for the last few weeks for him to go for parenting guidance..this way advice is coming from an objective point of view rather then me who he may think I'm trying to draw lines etween he/children...I'm really hoping he does soon..He battles w/the x and kids get thrown in and problems occur so he tries to just say yes and make it all better..but that doesn't always work..and after battling when I come in and suggest often he feels I'm turning on him as well...cycle...At this time I'm committed to the relationship so I'm going to hang in for now..see if he gets some outside assistance to help guid him..I don't want to be his therapist..work in progrss...but if it comes to the point I'm feeling bad more then good...then its time to bow out.