Thanks for the thread Asiablue. I don't know what my "attachment style" is. However, I do get strongly attached to a very few. I fell hard for my T after seeing him for 4 years. It was a slow process and just a natural comfortable feeling. Falling in love for me has been a gradual thing with others in my life too. Maybe that is a style? Gradual and hard?

My T betrayed me and I am still reeling over it, crying over it, etc. I never really explored attachment issues with my T so I'm not familiar with making connections to my past. I had a very close relationship with both my parents. It was complicated by alcohol abuse but it was very close nevertheless. I don't believe my close parental relationship had an affect on my feelings for T but it was never explored.

I think when people lead a relatively monotonous, lonely, life then T's role becomes bigger and takes on more meaning. It has been literally crushing for me to be betrayed by my T because I was in love with him.