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Originally Posted by Mapleton
Do you think, one time, you could wait for him to finish glossing over something, then say
"you know, it seems to me that you didn't consider that important, could you just explain why you felt that it wasn't worth exploring? I'm bothered by your lack of concern about it."
If you do it once, it might provide insight as to "important" between you.
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I agree that this might be really productive to try, Bipolar. I had something similar happen with my T, where something he did really bothered me. He didn't think the fact that it bothered me meant he should stop (he was using my kids to show why what happened to me was a big deal), and he essentially told me to suck it up and deal. However, when I went back and told him HOW MUCH it bothered me, and that I thought he was a good enough therapist to come up with a different technique and respect my desire for him NOT to do it, he apologized, and really has tried to not use that technique anymore. It is hugely affirming to have someone finally stop and acknowledge that your needs or wants or whatever is bothering you ARE important and worthy of addressing.