Do you think that we can change our personalities and attachment types so easy when these beliefs and past experiences have been ingrained into our systems?
I mean, subconsciously our head might tell us to start to trust but our bodies won't allow it. And therefore put up a barrier.
Like Asia's thread last week on barriers in therapy, can we ever forget the past, our mind forgets but the body doesn't. We give off these little signals to those around us and we know that these will eventually drive others away but we can't help doing them.