I felt when I began therapy that I had the fearful-avoidant attachment style. (There is a good description of 4 different adult attachment styles here: Attachment in adults - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

But I formed a healthy and secure attachment to my therapist. I think my original fearful-avoidant tendencies from childhood were exacerbated by my long marriage to a man with dismissive-avoidant attachment style. When I went to therapy, it was like a relief to find someone I could securely attach to and have a reciprocal relationship with. I do not have issues in therapy like being mad or feeling abandoned when the T goes on vacation, or wanting the T to be my mother, or wanting him to fill all my needs, or wanting to contact him by email and phone between sessions. We do not talk about transference or issues in our relationship often, because the relationship is by and large, very good. I have had negative transference a couple of times, but it was not enduring, just situational, and we explored it. I think having the experience of attaching securely to my T has helped me to have a secure attachment style. I don't think I would have an important relationship again where I was fearful-avoidant. I just wouldn't participate in that--go back to an old and unpleasant/painful way of being. So I think I have changed, or had my healthier attachment tendencies brought to the fore by working with T. I can't go back and I'm glad.