Hi sweetie,

I am so sorry your husband is treating you so poorly. Why won't your husband go on medication? Bipolar Disorder is a serious major medical illness and needs to be treated like Diabetes or Heart Disease is treated--With both Diet and Medication. Bipolar Disorder is Serious, there is a potential for suicide if not treated properly. I would do some research on the internet, read all about Bipolar and have your husband read about it too! Medications will straighten out his moods and help him feel less irritated and abusive to you. It is a mood disorder and is not a character flaw and admitting that you need help to change the way you feel is the 1st start. If he loves you and is truly sorry for the way he is treating you, tell him you want him to get help and go with him to the psychiatrist's office. I have had Bipolar Disorder since I was a child. A serious medical illness gave it to me, I had viral encephalitis as a child, (similar to meneghitis) and the brain damage left me with Bipolar Disorder at the age of 2-1/2). I was not officially dx with Bipolar until 2002 by my pdoc and have been on medication ever since. I do have mood shifts now and then but for the most part I am pretty stable and am finally happy. I feel balanced and stable and normal with my meds and fish oil. If things are really bad you might want to call your pastor or a psychiatrist/psychologiost or social worker to see what would be the best way for your husband to get the help he needs. You always have the opportunity to call 911 and have him committed. My husband did that for me when I had an adverse reaction to prednisone and it helped me a great deal to be in a safe place.

Going on medications is not admitting you have a character flaw but is admitting that you need help and will be a much happier person because of it, and your husband once stable will no longer be verbally abusive towards you.
Your hubby has a serious disease, he cannot help it and until he does see a doctor/(psychiatrist) he will most likely continue to be abusive and very irritable towards you. I hope you will consider seeing a mental health professional and talk things over if you feel you are at the end of your rope.