I'm sorry to hear that anyone feels they are too sick for therapy. For me it's hard to understand how this could come about even though I've been through years of desperation and hopeless, still I felt that therapy was a positive thing.

I think that time helps with letting things go. But the real motivator in the present is exactly the pain that this clinging to the old ways produces. Once you get so tired of that pain you become willing to do almost anything to let it go. And then change starts to happen.

As soon as you see some important change happening even if small, you realize that larger things are possible. It is always difficult and challenging but it's better than the raw pain of being twisted up in knots. Having someone hold your hand while you try to untie them is just life giving freshness that helps you want to move forward with more change.