Fair enough. But I have definitely seen a pattern in my relating that is showing up with my present T. My T is very empathetic and should not be a threat to me really...yet I'm very fearful and have that push-pull thing going on with him...I can't really deny its my own issue. I guess what im trying to say is that I know I have attachment issues and they appear to line up with being anxious/avoidant. I want to be close to people and long for a secure attachment, but I can't seem to get there because.....because I don't even know. If I did, I'd fix it straight away. It's not a nice feeling to live with everyday.