T and I looked at my "huge need to care" about people and found it closely related to me thinking that's what they wanted because that's what I want. To be cared about. It also relates to my childhood in which I had to hold things together for my self and got approval from being the unaffected care giver. Each person will have there own reasons that these behaviors develop. Mine had been caring about with the force of an infatuation. It was a relief to discover mine an it has improved some of my relating to people. I'd encourage you to talk about it with t when you can.