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Originally Posted by Mapleton
I think there are things that are very difficult to hide in terms of attraction, however much we may wish to... like a blush, involuntary mirroring of a smile, leaning or gesturing.
Its difficult not to unconsciously flirt at least a little with those who we covet, no? And you shouldn't worry if you do. Anyone should be flattered with it, as long as you're not invasive or breaking boundaries.
As for what she asks you... if I had to guess based on what you were saying, then I'd say she doesn't have a lot of experience with lesbian clients and she's at least intellectually curious about that sexual orientation. We're rarely exactly het, or gay, as Kinsey points out.
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I suppose we do flirt a little, well this is where it gets confusing for me because girls can be touchy feely and huggy but when you like them I don't know if they pick that up. T and I always hug and always compliment each other on hair make up etc...and a few weeks ago I was handing her the money and our fingers met and hers stayed on mine a little too long and it felt like a surge of electricity.
I know this is all coincidence or normal in therapy but I get confused with it all.
She has disclosed that she no experience with gay clients so I suppose she is trying to learn about the sex. T likes it when I notice her new shoes, dress or hair.
As for crossing boundaries I am supper aware of boundaries and wouldn't dream of crossing ts. Even though I was in crisis for the last three weeks I didn't ring her. She told me I should have.
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
Ts are trained to notice these things.
And she may be in denial about aspects of her own sexuality.
PS:
If a T terminates you because of your sexuality, that is their failure and theirs alone.
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Thank you CE, maybe t is exploring her own sexuality, who knows
