Don't forget that there's the wider range of experience with T the longer we see them that changes our perceptions too. When I first saw T I thought she was brilliant, like everything she said was right on target and almost like she could read my mind? But it was just that I was so closed up and "obvious" and we hadn't said much yet! So, of course everything she said was going to be significant, there wasn't years and years of conversation and thought behind it at first. It's like how important your first grade teacher is to you versus one of your 11th grade teachers :-) When you relax and look around some you learn more about your surroundings and aren't laser-keyed on your T and that particular struggle.