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Originally Posted by Perna
How would you "warn" someone? "Oh, by the way, in 3 weeks, mark it on your calendar, we're going to discuss my raising my fees"  Could you have "heard" about pay raises at the beginning of therapy when you did not know what was going on and were scared to death, etc.? It is shocking as it is, like the "we have to stop, now" at the end of a good therapy session when you are just getting into stride and feel like you're being shaken awake from an interesting dream. |
If you think about it, therapy is (or should be) a little like an alternate universe... The same but, different, where your concerns, fears and desires are what truly matter.
The thing with 'times up', 'im going on vacation' or 'okay you can pay me now' are that they break the illusion or pantomime of this altered state.
It's a comfortable place to be in, if the transference is good, I'd imagine (and I haven't been lucky enough to be there yet.) I would have to think that makes it all the more painful and jarring when one of those actually-this-is-real-life moment happens.