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Originally Posted by Perna
I would stop with the mimicry; it is covering up and obfuscating  the wonderful Mapleton who is trying to see what's where, who Mapleton is, and how to walk, talk, and chew gum at the same time.
Unfortunately, a lot of us don't learn how to communicate and interact well when we're children or we have special needs problems, etc. and our learning task takes longer or starts later. But mimicking others only works when we're starting out as very young children; we mimic our parents (and look where THAT got us :-) and learn good stuff or, not so much? Later, when we're older we are all turned around so knowing who to mimic, how can we if we don't know the principles in the first place?
Mimicking (T and other people we know/trust) can come later after we get all this stuff off us that doesn't fit. Our mothers dressed us funny and we can't just put more clothes on top of the ugly ones?
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As always, Perna, a pitch perfect and wise reply. I kind of agree that mimicking is not ideal. The problem is that being the "real Mapleton" didn't work out so well in childhood or early adulthood. This is less painful.
I understand the real solution is to fix the injury that got me here. Wish me luck and the same to you.