Thanks for the suggestions. This may sound weird, but I kind of wanted to find somewhere where I "knew" people....like I was part of the group, but didn't want to participate....have your cake and eat it too. I think there would be "regulars" at the spots you mentioned though - familiar faces that I would get to recognize at a museum, library, dog park, cinema etc. so I would feel like I "knew" them and "belonged" ....without having to interact or ever talk to them at all - just a "visual" sort of relationship. What Torn described is exactly the type of atmosphere - but I would worry like others suggested, that once you get into any formal group therapy kind of setting, you get roped into "participating". The Mind-type places sound less structured though - I will check if any of the walk-in groups don't require anything on your part to go there - I found a few have nightly meetings/drop-in type things for anxiety, OCD etc. in my area...going once wouldn't hurt and I could always leave and never go back. I really wanted to thank you for your replies - it meant a lot