There are ways in which this site feels unsafe. People engage in sneaky tactics where they personalize and argue in a way that isn't healthy. There's lots of projection that occurs and then people feel that they are almost entitled to do what they do, sneakily attack you, though not a direct attack so you can't point to anything in particular but it is still obvious that it is irrationally motivated.

There is no mechanism here to deal with this. The best way in real life is to do a direct confrontation, but that is frowned upon here. If you raise a person's behavior in the middle of a thread so it is public and people then become accountable and others can see it, that is removed as some kind of interference when it is actually productive and healthy.

I don't see how this type of discussion about the way people are conducting themselves harms anything. It is the exact opposite. Having to hide it and maybe use private messaging just opens up yourself to more abusive behavior which is not monitored. Whereas direct, public confrontation is open and honest, allows others to weigh in, and tells the abusive party that their tactics are not appreciated.

This has to be fixed or people will get harmed and eventually stop coming because it is unsafe.