I think you need to stop worrying about him and what he wants. He betrayed you. Whether he is through with the other woman does not matter. Do you want a relationship with someone who can lead a double life? Why? Can you write a list of qualities you want in a partner? When it is done, think of it as a list you require in a partner. Does he meet these expectations? If not, there is no point to continuing. You sound like an abuse victim. Does his verbal disrespect bring you some feelings of belonging or importance? Are you unable to leave? This man does not deserve a partner. He lives for his own benefit. When you no longer serve his needs, he is moving on to some one who does. You need to move on now. Don't let him use you.