I'd want to do exactly what you are looking to do. But it sounds like you already have a gut feeling of how she will respond. I understand wishing she'd respond differently (at all?), but to quote another...."you can't bleed a stone". She might not give you what you are looking for and that might cause you more pain - not the healing you are looking for. From the little I know about your old T, I'd say what you are looking for will only come from within.
Take care.