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Originally Posted by riotgrrrl
I actually think both you and your boyfriend are not really taking this on board. His comment about his own son is very much of a concern. You know, not accepting it is your choice and it doesn't mean it's a bad one for you - we all have our ideals and deal-breakers. There's no wrong or right in this, but not accepting it and bringing your own resentment into the relationship, perhaps on an innocent child, well, that's not a good move.
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I was concerned at first with his view point, too. I had to wrap my head around the idea that at first he had a kid, then on top of that, I had to get used to the idea that he had one that he didn't really want in the first place. After talking to him about it, I began to see his viewpoint, that the child wasn't planned, he should have used a condom, and fathers have very little say in what happens when a woman gets pregnant. As cold and harsh of a reality as it sounds, I understand it. I don't necessarily agree with it, but I don't know how to cope with the child. I feel like he was sprung on me and I am not sure how to get past the whole messy thing.
Thank you for your input.
