I agree if it's a situation where more than two people were affected. But if there's process time every time someone someone says or does something that someone doesn't agree with, I think that's a bit excessive. I see where you're coming from and in principal I agree with the process. I am in many groups where group process is the model. I don't think anyone should suffer at the hands (or words) of another for any reason. I guess from my perspective there's plenty of people who have no problem speaking their minds and I also believe in personal responsibility. In a community of thousands, what exactly would that look like? If there were more than two parties involved what's to stop them from entering a chat room with a third/fourth/fifth/etc party who is impartial to facilitate? (A private chat room, that is, if one exists.)