I'll understand if you don't want to respond to this but, is everything o.k. in the bedroom? I'm not at all implying that you should have to put up with being fondled if you don't want it, please do not interpret my comments that way. I'm asking because I've experienced something similar in past relationships and when I approached the subject, well, that was brought up. It was the individuals way (misguided though it was) of letting me know he wanted and needed more intimacy. He felt as though I wasn't getting the message so he figured a more direct approach might work.
Just a suggestion.