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((jkbob)) I've been in your shoes, had my heart ripped out, and learned some valuable lessons.
I think, from the beginning, you didn't give yourself enough time to get to know your husband - and vice versa. It's rather easy to fall madly in love and enjoy the good times. But the true test of a relationship is how well you can endure the bad times together - i.e., disagreements, tragedy, crisis. If you don't spend enough time getting to know the real person, chances are you won't be on the same page when it matters most.
My relationship with my ex-husband was similar to yours. I was determined to make it last, but over time I realized it was eating away at my soul and destroying my confidence.
I see such a difference with my current husband, and we've been together over 20 years. I love him with all my heart - even when he's an ahole. He loves me with all his heart - even when I'm a complete b**ch.
If your husband is unwilling to work on this marriage, don't waste your time. He doesn't sound like the type who deserves a woman who will bend over backwards for him. Take care of yourself and build up your strength....for the sake of your child.
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